Hello guyz, here i came up wid d another post.. it's been after a long tym...!!
so i dun need to specify the topic speciaaly... the title says it all what is it about...dun be wonder...i waz juzz thinking about it sm dayz bk...so juzz thot of pen down all d thots..!!
ppl says expectations hurt a lot so nvr expect... but is it rele possible..??.. atleast i cudn't avoid expecting d things afta tryin so hard..!! everytime i decided not to expect..got succeeded first..widout expectations i felt sm incidents as sweet surprises.. but later on again Istarted expecting more n more... my expectations from those buddies n others increased..!!
Whenever our expectations don't get fullfilled, we adjust wid d situation..saying it... "It's fine" or "It's ok"..!!
but kuthetarii manat chuk-chuktech..manaat kuthetarii tochtech..!! ryt...?? Whn ppl say "I have never kept any expectations so no probs of getting hurt..!!" but i think these are d reactions of getting hurt due to unsatisfied expectations in d past....ryt.?? wht u say guyz..??
so what i want 2 say guyz, expecting the things is d habbit of human being..!! now these r mah views depending upon mah experiences...n m sure everyone will have different views.. so guyz be specific n be clear...and give ur views on dis one..!!
Another topic i wuld lyk 2 raise is smthng diff...
juzz few days bak i posted mah staus on fb as "Afta doin so many things fr others, they value it afta u stop doin it..!! and some dn value it even after u stop doin it..!!"
i rcvd lotsa comments n suggestions on dis..sm ppl said ki fal ki asha mat karo n all...mahabharat ke dialogues n i diagree wid it completely...!!
temme whoever says dis, 'doesn't expect nything whtvr they do..??'.. is it so..???
we expect the fruits from all our dids like whn u study u always expect good marks...whn u give surprises to ur frnds u always expect that they wuld love it.. n vil thank u for tat..!!
Even at the time of planting tree also, we expect that it shud give us the oxygen n fruits as it grows up..??? ryt..???
do u ever plant a tree purposely whis is of no use..???
n nw temme whn othrs neither give value nor acknowledge fr the things u r doing..do u rele stop doin it..??
n whn u stop doin it... n ppl start missing it...do u again start wid d same stuff again..?? or do u follow d proverb.."JASHAS TASE..??"
obviously we expect the things from our closed once only...so when they dint satisfy r expectations, we get hurt easily...!! ryt..???
I knw mah thots r bit confusing.. sm ppl willfeel it a lot more confusing n wiered...but these status msg ka topic n expectations ka topic were so much interrelated wid each other...!!
those all were mah thots..but i'll need ur views guyz...so go ahead, pen down ur views on these 2 topics.. n give comments...
so..bye bye till d next post...!!
cya tc...!!
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ReplyDelete"i think these are d reactions of getting hurt due to unsatisfied expectations in d past."
ReplyDeleteU got it absolutely perfect!!!
Its a very complex thought.
V xpect from our closed ones nly, not from ne tom,dick & harry.
But if our closed ones nly dnt satisfy our expectations dn v get hurt.
So to avoid getting hurt, dt somebody mst have said dt expectations hurt a lot so nvr expect!!!
I won't say never xpect, its better 2 say "dont xpect too much, keep ur xpectation level very low if they r not fulfilled"
Its human nature only 2 xpect d fruit 4 his efforts.
V'll definitely xpect from planted tree, efforts put in studies.
But in relationships its totally different case!!!
Xpecting fruit for one's effort differs from person to person!!!
If ne of ur closed one is not acknowledging ur efforts dn u will never say "tit for tat" & stop doing something 4 them!!!!
WILL YOU???
After many unsatisfied xpectations from our closed ones v jst dont care abt fruits but keep doing things 4 them as v feel them as our closed ones!!!
dz r my views......they may not b correct!!
But i think dt way!!!......& yeah dt somebody might have also commented dt way if u haven't satisfied his/her xpectations or haven't acknowledged his/her efforts!!!
& sorry i've written miniblog while commenting on ur blog!!![;)]
i really don't want to comment on this bcoz the post is itself based on confusing topic!
ReplyDeleteand yup more than 90% telling you to keep no expectations, words are generally came out of experience only but that doesn't mean they r false
its just a simple thing that they don't want their loved one to see experiencing same trauma so they talk so!
well this topic is indeed confusing.....
ReplyDeleteits not just a case with any particular individual..every human in this world would expect at certain level...may be from their close ones, loved ones....
like mentioned in above comments its really a human nature nobody can do anything about it...
so a might go on expecting more and more..... and he will get unsatisfied if those are not fulfilled completely...
so i say..u should expect for your efforts/work..and wenever ur are unnoticed u shuld try to consider it as an experience...which will remind you next time you expect somthing...so atleast you can have a control on your mind....may be not the emotions!!!!
goin against spiritual theory..........
ReplyDeletedat is against mahabharata ...........
karmnne vadhikaraste maa phaleshu kadachan...
Anonymous guyz...plzz be brave to leave ur name after comments...!!!
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ReplyDeleteWow!
ReplyDeleteI feel like writing essays on your blog posts, which is why I find your blog interesting.
Expecting is human nature, true. How to tackle it? I've a funda, expect the worst, so You won't be disappointed...Actually a lot can be told ...but words will always fall short!!! But i do not disagree with whatever you've said. Neither do i agree completely...!!!
""Whn ppl say "I have never kept any expectations so no probs of getting hurt..!!" but i think these are d reactions of getting hurt due to unsatisfied expectations in d past....""
ReplyDeletedis is relly relly true....ha v expect nw n thn..bt u kno at certain pt v stop xpectin certain things frm certain ppl..v evn get hurt bt it wrks much btr than xpectin..bt dis case is smtimes..v relly cnnot juz stop xpectin...
nice thots..confusing bt mere bro ko me bauhot achhe se samajhti hun..nd evn i xpect him 2 do so...hehehehe